don’t doubt oprah, the bra whisperer is real

Last night I learned one very important thing: Never doubt Oprah.

A few years ago I saw Susan Nethero, aka The Bra Whisperer, on The Oprah Show. After a few minutes of watching Oprah’s hootin’ and hollerin’ and hallelujahin’ about this woman’s insight into bras, I couldn’t take it any longer. Maybe because I’m a size not worth mentioning, I scoffed at the tv, at the maven herself, and promptly changed the channel.

Well, last night I had the privilege of meeting the Bra Whisperer in person and my life has been forever changed. Seriously.

A group of about fifty women got together last night at Intimacy, a lingerie boutique in Fashion Valley, for a special event called “Cupcakes and Cleavage” benefiting the non-profit organization “HelpaMotherOut.” Amidst the lacey undies and the satin nighties all of us ladies mingled, sipped champagne and took turns getting fitted for the “perfect” bra. And more than one of us, me included, walked out of the fitting room hootin’ and hollerin’ and hallelujahin’, just like Oprah did on her show a few years back. Not only were most of us different sizes than we thought we were, but we are also wearing styles that did not suit our body types. And most of us walked out with one or more new fancy bras for ourselves (champagne is very useful selling tool, btw).

If you’re like me, you might be thinking the way I thought before I became a believer, that finding the right bra cannot be that difficult. And it’s not difficult, women are just not properly educated as to the ways that a bra should fit. If your straps fall down, or your “volume” isn’t what it should be after having kids, or you suffer from the dreaded back fat syndrome, then a bra fitting at Intimacy is just what you need. They will explain how a bra is supposed to work and show you the right style that will best compliment your body type.

One word of caution…the merchandise in this store is not cheap. In fact some of the dollar amounts seem a little ludicrous for undergarments. Yet, there is something to be said for #1) the self-esteem and self-confidence that a well-fitting and beautiful bra can bring and #2) A higher quality undergarment will last longer. For me, bras have now joined the ranks of jeans, in that finding the right pair of jeans or the right bra is worth spending a little extra moola.

Mama Mary & San Diego Momma with the Bra Whisperer

I highly recommend getting a fitting and trying on some of the fancy schmancy undergarments this place has to offer. You will learn a lot about the one thing we women take forgranted, our boobs. Here is a sampling of things about bra-wearing you will learn:

1) Wearing the base strap lower on your back decreases back fat (I’ve said the words back fat way too many times in the past 24 hours).

2) Wash your bras after (2) wears and don’t wear them back to back days. These tips will help them last longer (doubt there is any chance of me following those orders).

3) Bending over when putting your bra on will give you more “volume” (I love this one!).

This information has changed my life forever. And my husband’s.

A special thanks to LimeLightJenn and her team, and SugarJones for putting together this enlightening and uplifting event.




  1. 1
    Crystal says:

    uhhhh…huh…huh…huh…she said ‘boobs’ (that’s my Beavis & Butthead impression)

    Yeah, my girls are seriously gonna need some help after baby #5.

    And no fair that you and SDM got to drink champagne and try on bras together!

  2. 2
    Yvonne says:

    I still remember being a little girl and watching my mom get dressed and watch her bend over and "adjust" her boobs to increase her "fullness" as she put her bra on.

    Sounds like you had a fun time. You get to go to all sorts of fun events these days….how do I get that life?

    So….do we get a new rap song from Money G??

  3. 3
    Laura says:

    Great post Mary! I should just put up my pics and link to yours-well done. Fun seeing you the other night. Wish I could have gone partying with you guys after. Been on a silly strict diet for a couple of weeks-no alcohol. Silly, silly rule!

  4. 4
    Vixen says:

    Man, I am so sad I missed this. I really, really need a bra whisperer on my side.

  5. 5
    Natalie says:

    It was so amazing!! I was loving it. I LEARNED so much — I wish they would tell us that stuff earlier!

  6. 6

    Great meeting you on Saturday. I overheard you talking about this bra revelation. Sounds like I need help. Is the uniboob out?

  7. 7
    MomZombie says:

    I have this on my to-do list for the year. For some reason, I dread having a fitting.

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