Recently Lily learned the catchy phrase, “You get what you get and you don’t throw a fit,” from both preschool and ballet class. When she first said it, I thought wow, awesome, that’s a great lesson for her to be learning.
However, after the subsequent ten times of hearing her say it, it dawned on me that she was not using it in the right context and that she really had no idea what she was saying.
For example, if I handed Lexi the doll that Lily wanted, Lily would grab it and then yell “You get what you get and you don’t throw a fit.” In her three year old mind she was translating it to mean, “I get what I want and I won’t throw a fit”.
So I quoted The Princess Bride, “I do not think that means what you think it means.”
Not really, but I wanted to.
Instead, I tried to explain to her what it really does means.
Me: “You see Lily, you’re going to get whatever mom gives you and you’re gonna like it.”
Lil: “Yah, you get what you get and you don’t throw a fit.”
Me: “Right, you’re going to get what I give you and you’re not gonna throw a fit”
Lil: “But mom…you get what you get and you don’t throw a fit.”
I wanted to thow a fit. But instead I just said,
Me: Okay Buttercup, just give your sister the doll back. And never go up against a Sicilian when death is on the line.
Quoting movies can be much more fun than rationalizing with a child.