friends are good

A wise woman once told me, “the key to a successful marriage is good girlfriends,” a summation I think is spot on. I think it would also be fair to say that the key to LIFE is good girlfriends. Good girlfriends make my world go around. They have saved me from tough, dark places in my life and they have shared in my moments of glory. They provide for me an outlet for my frustrations and give me the gift of support.

This summer has been a toughie for me, with Steve traveling for most of it, my younger daughter turning three and challenging me in ways I didn’t think possible, and a ton of freelance + bloggy work that all culminated in the beginning of August with BlogHer and a few other corporate events I worked on. I all but had a nervous breakdown last weekend from the stress, but thanks to the love and support from “my girls,” I made it through.

Good friends know how much a nearly-extinct, paper greeting card means, especially when it is spot on and given for no other reason than to say, “excited to be your roommate at BlogHer for the next four days. And? I can dance better than you.”


There are friends who cheer you up, sometimes without even knowing it, by sending an encouraging email, leaving a thoughtful comment or sending a link to some “feel good nuggets.”


There are the friends who offer to (and do) take your kids for a few hours when they can see you are on the brink of a Mommy Dearest no-more-wire-hangar moment, like at least four of my friends did for me recently, including, Amy, Laura, Elizabeth & Theresa.


There are those old, long-time friends who you go months, maybe even years, without seeing, and then you are magically back to where you left off when you hit the Gaslamp for a GNO.

And the same friends are the ones who coax you into riding a mechanical bull because “all-for-one and one-for-all.”


Then there is a friend, like my bestie Amy, who has seen the dark side of life through the eyes of a terminal cancer diagnosis, and still manages to see the bright side of life. Amy has been teaching me things since day one of our friendship, but most recently, through her fight and her ultimate WIN over cancer, she taught me to never take life, love, family or friendship for granted. Last week she gave me this book.

It’s a book of quotes about friendship. She said to me, “I saw this at a shop in San Fran and it made me think of you.” Those words, even more than the book itself, meant the world to me. The world.

One of the quotes inside says, “It’s not what we have in our lives, but who we have in our lives that counts.” – J.M. Laurence

Ain’t that the truth!

Thank you to all the amazing women in my life (I wasn’t able to mention all of you here, but you know who you are!) who build me up, support me and make me feel like I can conquer the world.



  1. 1
    Jessica says:

    How lucky you are to be surrounded by such amazing women who have helped you along the way.

  2. 2
    Casey says:

    My grandmother told me to treasure friends. Family is in your life by default. Friends are there because they want to be.

    Turns out my family is distant from my life and sure enough, my friends are close. Good advice!

  3. 3

    Loving on your face.
    Wait. That sounded…gross.
    I love your heart.

  4. 4

    What a fabulous post. Friends Are Good. So happy to call you one of mine. smooches -K

  5. 5
    Stefanie says:

    Love you girl. LOTS. and LOTS. and LOTS.

  6. 6
    theresa says:

    Love you!!! Love you! Love you!

  7. 7

    Good girlfriends are seriously the KEY to happiness. I am so happy that you are surrounded by so many awesome ladies!!!

    Love you! xo

  8. 8

    I have been through things in my life that I simply don’t know how I would have done it without my girlfriends! They are my lifeline and I’m blessed to have them.

    I’m so glad that you have a group of women that are your lifeline as well!

  9. 9
    laura says:

    this? a beautiful post.

  10. 10
    Fawn says:

    You gave me goosebumps! I love this!

  11. 11
    Jen says:

    Girl friends, in real life and online, make all the difference in the world. :-)

  12. 12
    Amy B. says:

    I love this. And this may be why I love you. Because even though I don’t know you super-well, I can tell you feel the same way about your friends as I do about mine.

  13. 13
    Lisa Voss says:

    I cherish everything we have been through together and am so lucky to have you in my life. Love you!

  14. 14

    I am currently in Australia visiting family and I have been blessed to have been able to catch up with my best friend this past week. I forgot how much I adored and cherished her and I will be sad to be returning to the states again soon. Friends are amazing and oh, so needed.

  15. 15

    AMEN! I tell you the thing I hate most about all the moves we’ve had to make over the years is leaving dear friends behind along the way. Then, it takes a good long while to connect with kindred spirit type gal pals in the new place as well.

    A good girlfriend is absolutely necessary to keep you grounded, help maintain some sanity at times, as well as cheer you on. :)

  16. 16
    Chandra says:

    Having bull riding flashbacks …circa 1998, Rosarito, your nieces boyfriend getting thrown…it’s all kind of spotty. I haven’t been able to drink tequila shots since.

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