Do you remember the overly affectionate Vogelcheck family of Saturday Night Live fame?
Okay, so, the Vogelchecks take kissing just a wee bit too far for the sake of hilarity (and if you haven’t watched one of their skits, Google it now), but I’m definitely a fan of lip kissing my kids and was surprised to find out that not all moms feel the same way.
The other day, when dropping my 5 year old off at Kindergarten, I gave her a quick, loving smooch on the lips. In mid-kiss, we heard next to us, “Ewwwwwww,”
I looked up to find one of her classmates, another 5 year old, giving us stink eye. I looked back, quizzically, to see if her utterances of disapproval were really referring to my kissing my daughter goodbye.
“Ewwwww!” she uttered again.
“What?” I replied, probably more defensively than I should have being the adult in the situation. “I was just giving her a kiss goodbye. Do you not kiss your mom on the lips?” I asked curiously.
And she came back with, “NO! I do not kiss my mom like THAT.”
Lexi and I looked at each other, laughed, and gave each other one more big smackaroo on the lips, while the other little girl rolled her eyes and walked away.
This interchange has stayed with me since that day and though I stay firm in my belief that kisses on the lips are what make the world go around, I wonder if I’m the odd one out. I kissed my parents on the lips as a child AND as an adult; I also kissed, and currently kiss, friends, other family members, and even some special people in my life like my senior year English teacher who was invited to my wedding and I would kiss any day of the week because she listened to me bitch about boys in high school AND she got me to love reading), and I turned out somewhat fine.
Now, every time Lexi and I bring it in for a big smackaroo, we say “give me a Z kiss,” named after the little girl who didn’t approve, and I plant one on her like we’re Bogie and Bacall.
So, what about you? Do you kiss your kids on the lips? Do I need to be worried about this family habit of ours (as long as it doesn’t turn Vogelcheck-ish)?