the mom who dressed her 4 year old like a hooter’s girl and why i’m ticked off about it

What would you think if you walked into a dance competition or talent show to find a four year old wearing a Hooters outfit and grinding like it’s 1999?

Well, it just so happens that a mom in England, who also happens to be featured on a British show called Blinging up Baby, dressed her daughter Scarlett, HER 4 YEAR OLD DAUGTER, in skimpy orange shorts and white leotard with the word “HOOTERS” across the front, and entered her in a pageant where the 4 YEAR OLD danced like it was Sisqo’s Thong Song Spring Break on MTV.

Seriously. This happened.

And? Not only is the four year old in question dressed inappropriately, but so are most of the other little girls in the clip.

I don’t understand why this is a trend. I don’t see a positive side to it.

Is it inappropriate to dress your 4 year old like a hooters girl

A few months ago I blogged about wanting to walk out of my daughter’s dance competition because of the risqué costumes and the bumping+grinding that was taking place in front of me (and in front of my daughters) by other young girls.

Then I found out that one of the dance competition MCs is a pedophile and was hiding cameras in the dressing rooms of the young girls (cameras were found in the dressing room of a 10 year old). Sadly, I wasn’t shocked.

Then, the video above surfaced and my intense phobia and disdain for this kind of sexualization of young girls began to overwhelm me.

Dressing young girls in sexy outfits and praising them for acting provocatively is sending them the wrong message. Dance and talent competitions should be about dance and talent, not about how low (or lewd) you can go. How about we place value on creativity and talent rather than shock and raunch?

If we teach kids age-appropriate behavior when they are young, they are
more likely to develop a strong sense of self-worth and self-respect.

is dressing a 4 year old like a Hooters girl appropriate?

We have severe issues, epidemics, in this country, with sexual predators, sexual assault, sexual molestation, pedophilia and host of other sexually-related dilemmas, not to mention issues with female self-esteem and self-worth that many times lead to eating disorders, depression and anxiety in young and old girls.

Sexualizing young girls via the way they dress and move their bodies is contributing to those epidemics and perpetuates the cycle of equating a female’s worth to what (or how little) she wears and how she can move her body.

Let little girls be little girls, and let them mature into to their bodies and their own sexuality at their own pace. Encourage them to dress appropriately and learn how to bump+grind when they are emotionally ready to handle all that is associated with behaving that way.

Moms, please stop the madness, together. Cute, blinged out costumes don’t have to be sexy or have a sexual connotation like Hooters to be adorable, unique, and competitive.

Below is a clip from our Fox 5 Ask the Moms panel where we discuss this Hooters outfit. I was fairly tame in the segment, considering how riled up I get at this subject. If you watch closely you’ll see me take a deep breath before I start speaking to ensure that I wouldn’t get too wound up.

To sum up the clip and how I feel, “This sort of over-sexualizing young daughters is not appropriate in any way, shape or form.”



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    Mariana says:

    I’m in shock that mothers would exploit their daughters in this way, like you said this is an epidemic! What is the message this woman is giving her child?? Ugghh

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    Thank you Mary – I am scared to death raising two girls in a world that is just so hyper sexual – and I am really not a prude it just scares me, I’m scared raising a boy in this world too – how can we teach him to respect women when so much around him will teach him they are objects? Just really upsetting.

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    Eva Gallant says:

    Amen! I agree, totally!!! So inappropriate!

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    You know where I stand on this. I was HORRIFIED at some of the costumes and dance routines performed at the competitions our girls were at this year. HORRIFIED. I really don’t understand how dance teachers/choreographers and parents (especially the dads) think it is totally ok to send these very young girls out on a stage, with who knows is watching, and let them dance in what could only be equated to the mini-me version of a Vegas burlesque show. Our kids are already getting desensitized and maturing faster than ever before. Why force it on them even more? Gah … how I am fired up about it!

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    Sean says:

    why do all these things need to be a competition? That’s where it goes off the rails. My kids are learning to parkour(free style stunt tumbling/walking) at a gym that also has a variety gymnastics and dance training. The only competition involved in parkour is seeing if the participants can perform a harder move. They have a blast. Meanwhile all around them, there are stressed out kids and parents on the side burning their entire days keeping watch over their kids and their kid’s progress towards national championships. They seem so unhappy. All the parkour parents are just stoked that most of our kids just don’t get organized sports or barely understand competition.

    The kids are like trained monkeys and are just hoping to make mommy and daddy happy. They have no idea what they are doing. People need to chill out proving that there unique snowflakes are the uniquest. Let them play, let them shine, but stop looking for the trophy or the medal. Everyone gets the worthless participation prize. Recently I saw a photo exhibit of the “boomerang” generation. These are people that have gone to college and have had to move back home because they can’t make it on their own. Lots of trophies still sit in their childhood rooms.

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    Maryann says:

    Thank you for saying everything that I was thinking. I don’t know how long I thought that the dance competitions and classes have sexualized our young girls. They are sexualized enough by tv and music, and then we are essentially paying for them to be provocative. There are costumes and outfits that let them be their age- minus the red lipstick, cleavage and booty shorts.

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    Appalling that this is going on in our day and age…. Mary what did you do about that MC being a pedophile? I’d be outraged. I think maybe that is why I’ve never encouraged my daughter to go into those types of extra curricular activities…. but then she has girls on her softball team who were shaking their booties doing some kind of chant and I had to ask them to stop. When we were their age we didn’t have nearly the in your face media that we have now – and yes our parents might have thought so at the time – with every generation it gets further down the wrong side of the slippery slope. So, now the question is…. what do we as moms who are concerned do to take a stand against this? I mean aside from blog about it? I don’t have a clue, I’m not trying to be a smart ass…. I almost think we’ve reached the tipping point. The rating system almost does us no good. I like to think of myself as pretty liberal, but this is one issue I’m totally conservative about. I have a disdain for pageants and anything that little girls are made to look older than they really are because there is no good reason for it.

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    laura says:

    When you first posted this I read it. I read it again.
    I read it again.
    This scares me. I’m raising 2 girls in a very sexualized world, and the pressure is on the guide them and teach them about their own self worth, the beauty of being themselves with no frills attached. To encompass them in a world of security and also truth. It all seems like such a fine line, and often feels a tad overwhelming.
    On the flip I have a son that I’m raising who I must teach the same things to. To love himself and hold a high value of himself with no exploits or frills, and to also see the value in those around him and to respect them as a human. (and the same for my girls)
    And the thing is, this really shouldn’t be a hard thing to teach. The problem is that we are constantly being battled and challenged by those who are promoting the inappropriate behaviors of others.

    I’ve often wondered if I even want my girls to be a part of dance. Because of the challenges it presents. Is it worth it? I’m not sure that I really have a solid answer, but I know that I agree with you and once again you’ve provoked a lot of thoughts and concerns that has given a lot for my husband and I to discuss.

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    Tonya Sattab says:

    Good grief. I just can’t imagine exploiting my daughter in that way. Or any way. How can these parents think this is appropriate.

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    Andrey says:

    This shows real exseetipr. Thanks for the answer.

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