What would you think if you walked into a dance competition or talent show to find a four year old wearing a Hooters outfit and grinding like it’s 1999?
Well, it just so happens that a mom in England, who also happens to be featured on a British show called Blinging up Baby, dressed her daughter Scarlett, HER 4 YEAR OLD DAUGTER, in skimpy orange shorts and white leotard with the word “HOOTERS” across the front, and entered her in a pageant where the 4 YEAR OLD danced like it was Sisqo’s Thong Song Spring Break on MTV.
Seriously. This happened.
And? Not only is the four year old in question dressed inappropriately, but so are most of the other little girls in the clip.
I don’t understand why this is a trend. I don’t see a positive side to it.
A few months ago I blogged about wanting to walk out of my daughter’s dance competition because of the risqué costumes and the bumping+grinding that was taking place in front of me (and in front of my daughters) by other young girls.
Then I found out that one of the dance competition MCs is a pedophile and was hiding cameras in the dressing rooms of the young girls (cameras were found in the dressing room of a 10 year old). Sadly, I wasn’t shocked.
Then, the video above surfaced and my intense phobia and disdain for this kind of sexualization of young girls began to overwhelm me.
Dressing young girls in sexy outfits and praising them for acting provocatively is sending them the wrong message. Dance and talent competitions should be about dance and talent, not about how low (or lewd) you can go. How about we place value on creativity and talent rather than shock and raunch?
If we teach kids age-appropriate behavior when they are young, they are
more likely to develop a strong sense of self-worth and self-respect.
We have severe issues, epidemics, in this country, with sexual predators, sexual assault, sexual molestation, pedophilia and host of other sexually-related dilemmas, not to mention issues with female self-esteem and self-worth that many times lead to eating disorders, depression and anxiety in young and old girls.
Sexualizing young girls via the way they dress and move their bodies is contributing to those epidemics and perpetuates the cycle of equating a female’s worth to what (or how little) she wears and how she can move her body.
Let little girls be little girls, and let them mature into to their bodies and their own sexuality at their own pace. Encourage them to dress appropriately and learn how to bump+grind when they are emotionally ready to handle all that is associated with behaving that way.
Moms, please stop the madness, together. Cute, blinged out costumes don’t have to be sexy or have a sexual connotation like Hooters to be adorable, unique, and competitive.
Below is a clip from our Fox 5 Ask the Moms panel where we discuss this Hooters outfit. I was fairly tame in the segment, considering how riled up I get at this subject. If you watch closely you’ll see me take a deep breath before I start speaking to ensure that I wouldn’t get too wound up.
To sum up the clip and how I feel, “This sort of over-sexualizing young daughters is not appropriate in any way, shape or form.”