7 things new moms need (that no one ever tells them)

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Below is a list I felt was necessary to share with those of you unsuspecting new or soon-to-be moms out there. It contains items that you are going to need that most likely no one else told you about:

Items new moms need that no one will tell them

1. Donut – Nope, not the kind you eat, but the pillow kind, that you SIT on. That area down yonder is mighty sore after giving birth so the simple act of sitting is not very simple (nor comfortable) for a few days, or longer. I recommend the Boppy pillow (though I recommend My Breast Friend for nursing).

2. Soothies — For some women, nursing is painless and simple, but for many it is not. The words cracked, chafed and bleeding as they pertain to nipples are not something any woman wants to think about, but they’re a reality. Have several packs of the miraculously soothing Lanisoh Soothies gel pads by your bedside.

3. Poise Microliners – These puppies are for something fun called light bladder leakage. Yes, light bladder leakage (LBL) is actually a thing, and yes, it will most likely happen to you. Accept it and move on. Oh and use this link to get a free Poise sample.

4. Colace – Four words: First post-baby poop. Seriously, it’s scarier than child birth. Stock up on Colace or any stool softener of your choice.

Speaking of stool, the next thing on my list is . . .

5. Nursing Stool – Back pain is a given with all the lifting and lugging, so one tip to help with back pain is to make sure your body is in the right position while nursing. Get a little stool for your feet and your body will be aligned better while nursing and/or rocking your babe.

6. A notepad (or some method to write down all of your thoughts)– This is not just to

5 promises to keep during sandal season

Summer is in full swing which means most of us are busting out our flip-flops, wedges, mandals and other open-toe shoe varietals. Therefore, it is time for a quick reminder of general open-toe shoe etiquette.  These promises are not required by law, they are merely considered common courtesy to those around you.

 Open toe shoe pledge for the summer

1. Get a pedicure once every few weeks. Don’t be afraid or paranoid like Elaine on Seinfeld–they’re not talking about you and there’s only a very small chance you’ll get a fungal disease.

If you’re not keen on public pedis, vow to do your own toes every 3 weeks and invest in a home pedi kit.

NOTE: Touching up a chipped toe 3 times in a row does NOT constitute a pedicure.

2. File, loofah, and lube those heels. Often.

TIP: If you have problem heels like I do, lube those suckers up with Aquaphor or Vaseline at night and sleep with socks.

3. Know and embrace your shoe size. Nothing is worse than a heel hanging over the back or toes popping out the side of a tight sandal like pigs in a blanket.

4. Birkenstocks. Just Say No. 

5. Shave. If you’re of the dark-hair persuasion, consider, strongly, shaving those big toes.


Years ago, when I worked at an event planning company where we had a lax dress code during the summer months, my bosses busted out an

how to prevent temper tantrums and meltdowns in a restaurant

how to handle screaming kids in a restaurant

Last week, on Fox 5′s Ask the Moms, we were asked, “What should I do if my kid has a screaming temper tantrum in the middle of a restaurant?”

The short answer to that question is, stay calm, and swiftly remove the spazzy child from the venue, stat.

The reasons for that are twofold. One, you want to teach your kiddo that screaming t’aint a means to an end.

Also, it’s common courtesy to those around you who are trying enjoy their meal.

Tantrums and fits are bound to happen when young families try to dine out, but here are some tips to take to avoid the spin outs and melt downs in the first place:

PREPARE: Even if you’re going to a casual place like Mickie D’s or Starbucks, tell them what kind of behavior you expect from them and that you will leave if they don’t behave (and then you HAVE to follow through!)

PREVENT: Be sure neither you nor your child is not overly hungry or cranky (or as Tina Fey calls it, Hangry). Nothing good can come out of a hangry mom, dad or child when trying to dine out.

DISTRACT: In the world of iDevices and other such gaming mechamnisms, there is no excuse for not having a distraction for your kid. If you’d rather not rely on tech gadgets, then go for the old fashioned toys like rattles, blocks and coloring books, whatever, just have something to keep them occupied.

RESEARCH: Not all kids menus are created equally. Use your friend Google to

sytycd season 11 favorites and predictions

Oh friends, my favorite reality performance show is back! Season 11 of So You Think You Can Dance (SYTYCD) is back on and from what I’ve seen so far it might just be the best season ever, and not in the way that every Bachelor Rose Ceremony is the “MOST ROMANTIC EVER” for drama’s sake, but honestly the talent across the board this year is phenomenal.

Out of the Top 20 , the at-home audience only got to know a handful of the dancers through the early auditions so it’s hard to pick my favorites at this juncture, but based on what I’ve seen so far, here are my picks for the Top 4.

Picks for top dancers SYTYCD Season 11


RICKY UBEDA: This guy is ridiculous. Check out his final solo and you’ll see why he deserves to win, like tomorrow.

I love several of the other guys but my pick for 2nd best guy is:

MARCQUET HILL: He is talented in all areas of dance, including tap and ballroom, and, he has a darling personality. I think he’s

how to get rid of fruit flies

The sun and fun that accompany summer are what make us all happy this time of year. But with the good, ineveitably comes the bad. Enter: green hair, sun burns and the most bedevilling of creatures, the FRUIT FLIES.

Fruit flies are seriously the very worst part about summer.

I used to put out a glass of red wine to catch those nasty buggers, but why waste perfectly good wine when there’s a better method?!

 how to get rid of fruit flies in the summer

Try putting this simple concoction into a little dish:

  • ½ tsp water
  • 2 squirts of dish soap
  • 1-1 ½ TBSP of apple cider vinegar

You’ll also need to make sure that any exposed fruit is in the fridge or fully covered and that all the counters are wiped down. Those pesky suckers will find even the smallest trace of fruit and attack it. But…if everything else is put away, your apple cider vinegar concoction will do the trick, I promise.

Big thanks go to my friend Laura who passes infinite kitchen wisdom on to me on a daily basis (including tips like this!).

curing summer boredom and how to cope with overnight camps

This week’s Ask the Mom’s segment dealt with several summer-themed questions:

1) Should summer be all about fun or should parents throw in some academics too?

2) How to cope when kids go away to overnight summer camp.

3) What to do when your kids say, “I’m bored.”

This last topic is a big one because we’re a week into summer and I’d bet my Skimmies that every parent in America has heard the phrase “I’m bored,” at least once, if not 100 times so far.

Ironically, for 9 months out of the year, kids are over-scheduled and tapped-out, and now, with a little free time on their hands, they go nuts, expecting, us, the parents to keep them occupied every second of the day, which isn’t practical nor possible. To combat the boredom blues, here are a few tips:

tips for avoiding summer boredom

1) Post a list of things they can do BEFORE they can say that they’re bored.
2) Offer a reward if they can make it a day, week, the whole summer without saying “I’m bored.” (I do this for road trips if they can make it the whole way without saying “Are we there yet?”)
3) Raid the dollar aisles at Target, Michael’s or the local Dollar store with various crafts and put them in one bin so they can always go to the bin to get a craft.
4) Sign up for your local library’s reading program and have a bunch of free books lying around that they can read in their downtime. Give incentives for books read by the end of the summer.
5) Let them be bored. No one has died from boredom.

curing summer boredom with free time ideas

As you’ll see in the clip below, my fellow blogger, Bethany Kelly who sat in on our panel this week in Rachel’s absence, has some great ideas and including one genius idea via Danielle of Extraordinary Mommy who came up with a list of activities, similar to the one above, for every letter in the word BORED.

Check out the clip below for (more…)